By: Aylenn Minaya (Translated by Allison Párraga)
Parenting children and adolescents is an extremely complicated and satisfying task. This is guidance that parents give to their children for their well-being and learning. I am sure there is no manual on how to be a good parent or how to raise a child. But we all know that parenting practices are different from one parent to another and clearly, the effects on the children are also different.
The parenting style should be based on respect for the children, love, and above all, knowing how to differentiate good from the bad. Currently, there is a great concern on the part of parents towards the upbringing of children and adolescents of this new generation.
IT WAS NOT LIKE THAT IN MY TIME
The education that our parents received is not the same that children and young people receive today. To this day my parents tell me how they were raised when they were young. Undoubtedly, the difference is very big. If we make the comparison, there have been great transformations over the years.
Today, there are many concerns that parents have for their children. Now, they are terrified that their children will be enveloped and blinded by the invisible cloud of drugs. And of course, that they will wander into mischief and acquire other types of consumerist addictions such as the internet and social media.
My mother says that her parents were very rigid with her and all her siblings. However, they never lacked anything. Food, clothing, and shoes were always up to date. And clearly, the affectionate part was not lacking either. The phrase that always comes to mind when I ask her about her upbringing is that her parents were strict on one hand and love on the other.
WHAT HAS CAUSED THIS?
This new behavior in children can be affected by different factors such as dysfunctional or difficult homes, children with too much freedom and willingness to do whatever they like, excessive time on the Internet, among many others.
In the past, the most normal and acceptable thing was that children should be obedient to their parents. If they were punished, it was justifiable, as it was always mentioned that it was for their own good. Parents, in general, were more controlling of their children’s activities. And not to mention the technology that did not exist in those times, being able to supervise their behavior in a better way.
Today, however, the human rights movement has a lot to do with this radical change in parenting. Children have rights in which parents should not punish them physically, because they could be denounced for child abuse.
In the old belief, it was said that they behaved well thanks to the good discipline they received, alluding to the spankings or spankings they had. Nowadays, people think differently and mention that it is not justifiable, much less that this is the way to correct children.
Francisco tells us that on his own and together with other parents in the neighborhood, they have begun to carry out various sports activities. With the purpose of keeping the children entertained in healthy activities and in this way transferring them to a world far away from the harmful temptations for children and young people who do not have the supervision of their parents.
Now, Francisco feels committed to the adolescents, and he needs to continue doing these sports activities. He says that he cannot stand idly by and watch the situation of today’s youth.
For this reason, he does not intend to give up even though his resources are very limited. However, he does his best to guide young people on a good path, for a better future.
Parenting is an important and primordial factor for the future that children will choose. Many of their decisions and actions depend on it. “Francisco” recalled that the formation he received was very strong and firm in the doctrine of formation.
This led to generate a balance in forming their criteria, knowing how to correct and differentiate between what is right and what is wrong.
However, Rocío (protected name) mentioned that it is also important for children and adolescents to be listened to. Parents can spend a lot of time being busy and not asking their children what is going on with them, or how their day went, if it went well or if it was a bad day.
Communication is one of the things we need to polish as a society and as parents. Young people also have the right to have a say and to express what they feel so that together they can make the right decisions and make a contribution to their lives, but always under the guidance and tutelage of their parents.