Sleeping with the enemy
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Pearl of Inspiration

Sleeping with the Enemy

By: Jaime W. Mejía    (Translated by Jessica Schwartzman)

In the previous Neighborly Conversations dialogue circle, “Maria” told us about a problem that was keeping her up at night: 36 years of marriage, a couple with grown children, a “common” husband (sexist, with a soldier’s voice).

In this episode (she has joined the circle before), she told us that sadly her “general” had contracted COVID-19.

She had to do what any selfless wife would do for her home: care for the sick, despite the screams, bad treatment, and her husband’s bad temper.

Consequently, she became the only “head of the household.”

Yet, the demands of her kids made her feel like “the last cog in a machine,” unimportant and only serving to ensure demands, like food, clothing and money, are met. 

And on top of it, this happened while she remained in confinement: 24 hours, 7 days a week.

This made the demands endless and even tougher, leading her to hit rock bottom.

Exhaustion set in. And all she wanted was to run away and find some quiet place where she could be alone.

What do you need for a change?

After such sustained effort, anyone would feel that their energy was depleted. At that moment, a voice comes from deep inside: ENOUGH!

It’s hard to believe others don’t see the work, strength and sacrifice we have given in order to care for them? 

At some point, even our parents are not obligated to look after us or watch over our wellbeing and health.

Does the famous “magic basket” of clothing clean and fold itself? What about the feasts on our table, do we wonder how they got here?

It’s not about the money. What ever happened to recognition, kindness, and gratitude. This last point, forgotten on some occasions, is powerful:  A SIMPLE “THANK YOU” says more than a thousand words. 

Better yet is when the work and various household tasks are shared and reciprocated. Love is how you love and allow yourself to be loved. 

The most important thing is that, in the home, everyone participates in this kindness and cares for each other. This is what FAMILY is about. This truly feels like HOME.